These days, we so frequently find ourselves with an occurring thought. "When I get this", "When I am fitter", "When i am stronger". But what happened to thinking about the present, the here and now?
What is our aversion to believing that we can be successful and that things are great in the present?
A lot of this comes down to social comparison. We want to be reassured that we are doing well in life and so we compare ourselves to those around us. We become to entrenched in this habit that we convince ourselves that if we have more money, a bigger house, better clothes and fabulous holidays then we must be doing ok.
The danger in looking for future events to make you happy, is that you will miss out on experiencing joy in the present, because you are too focused on the future. This can be attributed to getting to an ideal goal weight, meeting The One, earning more money, having your life sorted etc...
If we think too far to the future instead of enjoying the present, goal posts shift and you will struggle to get to a point where you belief that you are happy, and your life is going how you want it. There is always more to do, more to think, more to plan, more goals to set, so you constantly deny yourself the enjoyment of feeling happy and content in the right here and now.
Remind yourself that you do not need reassurance from anyone, this stems from yourself. Ask yourself why do you need this reassurance? What has happened recently that has made you feel a particular way, that you need to seek reassurance from someone. If you can get to the nuts and bolts of how you are feeling, you will soon develop the healthier habit of talking and reassuring yourself through what is coming up for you, and soon realise that seeking reassurance from others, becomes less and less a necessity.
Self love... two simple words.
Content: My Own
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